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Sunday, May 26, 2024

The First Saturday of truth

The moment I entered the exam room, I felt the weight of doing it all alone. No friends, no batch mates beside me—none of the people who had once walked with me during the early years of this journey. It hit me hard: this was something I had to face by myself again.

What’s ironic is that I’ve always been the one encouraging others, the one constantly lifting people up. Yet when my own mental health declined, I couldn’t even find the strength to lift myself. It consumed me, stole my time and energy—and on top of that, I had just undergone thyroid surgery. Still, despite everything, I made it through.

The exam was just as difficult as I had expected. Even though I had studied most of the key points, the actual test was overwhelming. As I answered each question, struggling to manage my time, I was quietly amazed: I was doing it again—alone. And yet, deep inside, I knew that this strength, this endurance, would mean something one day. I just have to be patient and trust the process.

By lunchtime, I was so exhausted I could barely hold my spoon and fork. I wanted to break down, but I couldn’t—not yet. It was just the first Saturday. I still have another round next Saturday—another five subjects to go through. Honestly, I don’t know how long I can keep doing this alone. Yes, I have friends who keep encouraging me, cheering me on toward the finish line—but it still feels different when a part of you feels like it’s slowly fading, even when you’re trying so hard to do everything right.

This journey is something I’ve always wanted, but I never expected that pursuing a doctorate could take such a toll on my mental health. And yet, on the other side of that struggle, I remain determined. I choose to continue—even at the cost of setting aside a personal kind of happiness. Not because I don’t want happiness, but because I’ve learned—sometimes painfully—that certain things are no longer healthy, and it's okay to let go of what once felt familiar and comforting. Growth means moving forward, even when it's hard.

Thursday, May 9, 2024

Procrastination its finest

Finally, the weather has returned to its usual cold and rainy state after the extreme heat of April 2024. I have been really busy lately getting ready for the comprehensive exam that is scheduled for May 25, 2024.

I've been staying busy with reading and practicing writing to avoid the fatigue I encountered during my master's degree exam in 2019.  I still remember well how unprepared I was the last time, how tired I was when I got home, and how I even became sick with a fever. I'm making a lot of preparations ahead of time because I'm determined not to have that experience again. Still, there's a trace of procrastination that happens for no apparent reason.

I spent the entire day staring at my iPad and laptop in an effort to get into the right state of mind for studying. I even ate some ice cream and watched Netflix in a try to get the impeccable kind of motivation to push myself harder. Yes, both physically and psychologically, I'm exhausted. I therefore hope that taking a day off won't impair my memory or ability to think in preparation for the approaching exam.

The scheduled exam is in just fifteen days. Just like my master's degree exam, this one has another goal, so I wanted to put in more effort because I've been losing a lot of time and energy due to personal circumstances over the past few years. For that, I am still grateful. These events got me to thinking and realizing that we all need to live, have a life apart from our jobs, discover our happiness, and even our purpose.

It appears that I am using this as an excuse to write because I am finding it difficult to stay focused on my readings today. I have been putting off reading all day, which is bad because I still have a ton of readings to catch up on and I have work responsibilities to attend to. I have tried to read after work, but it seems to be extremely exhausting already, and coffee, soda, or anything else that helps me wake up can't seem to complement my everyday exhaustion.